Or am I worth it?
As many of you know, I am a health coach and have the privilege to help many people along their journey of health and wellness. Wellness in all areas including the Mind, Body and Finances. I love the chance to help others along their own personal journey and meet them where they are at. It is so rewarding to hear all my clients choose to do for their own health and how the results multiply on their own. Many people have renewed energy, which in turn has helped them be more engaged in activities. Consequently, these changes have strengthened their family dynamic. Others, like me, have increased in confidence and desires to help others and be their best selves.
The hardest part of my coaching experiences is not the clients, the program, the failures, or successes. What is hard are the times when I have a wonderful connection with someone and they don’t see their worth enough to make a change they desire in their heart. I don’t mean this to be pointed to one person or even to anyone I have interacted with, but to the women like me. At one time I never thought I was worth anything. I didn’t believe I was worth any time, energy or money invested in myself. I thought that if everything else was taken care of, I did my job as expected. However, since I decided to begin my overall wellness journey I have learned a few new things. As a mom, we want what is best for our kids, but we never really take in the effect that as mom, we also need to take care of ourselves.
This “I just can’t justify” mentality hits us all hard at times, doesn’t it? Believe me, I have totally been there. I have days where I push my thoughts and opinions and ideas to the side and try to ignore them so I don’t rock the boat or mess things up. Everyone and everything is put above my needs and I serve to the point that I am depleted. Does this sound familiar? Now, I know we are not to be fully focused on ourselves and our needs, but you and I both know this is not what I mean. God created us in His image. He did not create us to put ourselves down or even last all the time. We are created to serve Him and bring glory and honor to Him, right? So, are we really serving Him by saying no to ourselves all of the time? I certainly don’t think so anymore.
The day I said yes to my health I was scared. I was worried about the money, concerned about who would find out, and angry at myself for needing a “program” to lose weight. I thought I was a failure of nutrition, and didn’t think I was not worth the money spent on little old me. The worries and concerns piled up and went on and on. That is really what it all comes to, I did not believe I was worth investing in myself. I always put myself on the back burner. I have mentioned the analogy before about the oxygen masks in the airplane. You know what I am going to say. They tell you to put on your Own Mask First before assisting those around you! Why? Because if you are not in a state of safety and health, you cannot effectively do your job, be the best mom you can be, perform at your best. I mean, if you are not breathing, how in the world are you going to help someone else breathe? You can’t!
I was also scared of complete failure. There were many “diets”I had tried before. I thought I knew what to do, but just didn’t follow it well. I thought I had to do it all on my own and be all I was supposed to be and be calm, collected and perfect at the same time. This was absolutely not a way to fully live out the potential God had instilled in me.
Then something amazing happened, I got on a call with my now friend and coach and she was fully invested in listening to me. She listened to my heart, my fears and my hopes and we began a friendship and coaching relationship. I will be forever grateful for her and the time and investment in me. After talking to my coach, I truly saw the value of taking care of myself. It was not my place to decide if I was worthy enough to become my full potential and I was able to borrow her belief in me to get there.
Now, when I first came to my coach Sheri, I was looking for weight loss. She had a wonderful transformation and I hoped that if she did it, I could too. You know what happened? I accomplished a goal I had written down for at least 5 years, lose 40 lbs. Yep, in about 4 months I lost 4o pounds and have kept it off. However, what is the greatest part of this relationship with my coach and my journey? It is my shift in mindset. It is the ability to learn and grow from others in a safe and fabulous community, the chance to grow in personal development and wrestle with my scarcity mindset and the limiting beliefs I have carried along in my life for as long as I remember.
I always thought I was made for more, or at least meant to do more than I was doing, but I never could put my finger on it. Then I took a step. Not only have I changed my physical health, I have grown in so many more ways. I now have more confidence, poise, strength, relationship, encouragement, focus, clarity, hope, and more. It was one big, scary and much needed step, but I did it!
So, before you say to yourself you are not worth it, or “I just can’t justify” this, think about what I have written. I know there are financial needs out there. I know there are times when life hits you hard and you’re just trying to make ends meet, but we each have one life. If your spouse or kids needed something to keep them alive and well and living at their best potential, we as moms would pull out all of the stops to make sure they are taken care of, right? So, why don’t we do this for our own needs? Won’t we be living at our full potential, when we do? Wouldn’t that mean we are able to be more and do more for those we love because we are healthy and strong enough to do it?